Ahmad once had this song and the line that I remember the most was the chorus “back in the day when I was young, I’m not a kid anymore” and I am really glad that I’m not a young person in these days.
One of the biggest reasons that I am glad I’m not young these days is because many young people not only lack respect for each other, many don’t have any respect for themselves. Try telling them that and one can expect an argument out of this world. I don’t blame the young people entirely; I place part of the blame the breakdown on the fact that as a society, we expect less from them than previous generations.
When I was growing up, young men opened the doors for women and the elderly out of common courtesy. I am not sure that many in this generation even know what common courtesy is, because I have watched many go through a door and let it close on the elderly person behind them. That pisses me off to no end; that was unheard of when I was younger, hell it’s still unheard of to me.
I remember when men didn’t curse in mixed company; they had enough respect for women that it just didn’t happen. Now, not only do young men curse in front of young women, the young women are cursing back, and loudly. I remember taking my mom and dad out for dinner a few years ago and sitting at the table behind us, there was a group of young men talking, if that’s what you want to call it. Every other word that came out of their mouth was “fuck”, “fuck that bitch”, “fuck you”, “fuck that”, you get my drift. If that wasn’t bad enough, their conversation was graphic; it was one of those conversations that could have been printed in some smut magazine about some tawdry one night stand. It got so bad that I finally just walked back to their table, told them that I was with my parents and asked if they could tone it down and show a little respect. They were not only embarrassed but they actually apologized to my parents, which I thought was very cool.
They guys are not the only one lacking in some kind of home training. Some of the young ladies are just off the chain. It seems that they have gotten the message that it’s what’s between their legs that matters more than what’s between their ears. A lot of young women are basing their self-esteem on what guy they can get into bed or if they can “steal” another woman’s guy, even if it’s only for a night.
I just love it when young people use the phrase “get out of my business”, many of these young people don’t even know that they have no business. They are so busy putting their entire life online, never stopping to think that once it’s on the net, they have invited the world into their business. A gentleman used to not kiss and tell, well many of these young people are not only kissing and telling but fuckin’ and telling all of it. What is that?
If all of that is not bad enough, many young people don’t even know how to apply for a job. When I was working in human resources, I recall young people coming in and asking “aye, is ya’ll hiring”? I was obligated to give them an application and when they came back for the interview, the young men would come in wearing a pair of slacks, sagging of course and the young ladies were coming in wearing skirts shorter than Amber Rose’s hair. Who taught them that? Rather, whoever was supposed to tell them NOT to do those things dropped the ball.
I think that this generation has a lot of entitlement issues. No one wants to actually work hard for anything anymore. Many young people have been given so much that they feel as if the rest of the world is supposed to provide for them instead of them breaking a sweat and working for what they want. Not comparing young people to dogs, but I don’t even give my dogs treats unless they work for it even if it’s simple command such as sit.
The sad thing is, this is the generation that will be raising their children with the same flawed thinking. I once saw a video on YouTube about a little boy (he must have been about 5) that was just cussing up a storm about his bike. The people were so busy taking phone recordings, laughing at him and encouraging him to keep it going, not once, did anyone tell that little dude to watch his mouth let alone correct his behavior.
It really pisses me off when I see videos of young girls dancing and executing moves that hookers could only hope to learn. I see nothing entertaining about children booty poppin and moving in ways that could almost be considered as pornographic while being cheered on by adults who should know better.
This generation is, without a doubt, the “me” generation and unless things impact their lives they don’t worry about it. There is often no consideration for the feelings of others and the value of human life is worth less than the value of a dollar.
I am not a goody-goody, but the difference between how many young people are today versus how my generation was raised to be, makes me wonder whether or not we all actually grew up on the same planet. I think that whenever possible, we need to reach out to some of these kids and show them how to be excited about who they are inside versus some of the negative things that manage to keep them captivated. Each one, teach one. End rant here …..
One of the people I follow on Twitter sent out a study that claims that there is a correlation between heavy soda drinking and teen violence. I am going to post the findings of the study because I think that it is an interesting read but that’s about it.
The study, conducted in Boston by French researchers, claims that “teen violence IS linked to heavy soda drinking”. The researchers make their claims based on the testing of Boston inner city students ages 14-18. The researchers admit that a bulk of the study was comprised of Black, Latino and bi-racial (black and white) children and contained little to no Asian or White students.
Some of you research and design guru’s out there can correct me, but it seems to me that if Asian and White students are not incorporated into the study, that it would be a bogus to assume that teen violence, as a whole, is linked to heavy soda drinking. Based on how the study was conducted, I would even be hesitant to claim that teen violence in minority youths is linked to heavy soda drinking as there was no control group to support that claim either.
Furthermore, the study was conducted via survey, which, for numerous reasons can be dicy in terms of the results. I think that the study is more of a foundation for more studies to be conducted on the topic.
The study authors concede that sodas are probably not the direct cause of the aggression, which isn’t saying much as this study was not in depth enough to render causation.
Here is the study:
PARIS — Researchers in the United States said on Tuesday they had found a ‘shocking’ association — if only a statistical one — between violence by teenagers and the amount of soda they drank.
High-school students in inner-city Boston who consumed more than five cans of non-diet, fizzy soft drinks every week were between nine and 15-percent likelier to engage in an aggressive act compared with counterparts who drank less.
‘What we found was that there was a strong relationship between how many soft drinks that these inner-city kids consumed and how violent they were, not only in violence against peers but also violence in dating relationships, against siblings,’ said David Hemenway, a professor at the Harvard School of Public Health.
‘It was shocking to us when we saw how clear the relationship was,’ he told AFP in an interview.
But he stressed that only further work would confirm — or disprove — the key question whether higher consumption of sweet sodas caused violent behaviour.
The new study was based on answers to questionnaires filled out by 1,878 public-school students aged 14 to 18 in the inner Boston area, where Hemenway said crime rates were much higher than in the wealthier suburbs.
The overwhelming majority of respondents were Hispanic, African-American or mixed; few were Asian or white.
Among the questions were how much carbonated non-diet soft drink, measured in 12-ounce (355-millilitre) cans, the teens had drunk in the previous seven days.
They were also asked whether they drank alcohol or smoked, carried a weapon or showed violence towards peers, family members and partner.
What emerged, said Hemenway, was evidence of ‘dose response,’ in other words, the more soda was consumed, the likelier the tendency towards violence.
Among those who drank one or no cans of soft drink a week, 23 percent carried a gun or a knife; 15 percent perpetrated violence towards a partner; and 35 percent had been violent towards peers.
At the other end of the scale, among those who drank 14 cans a week, 43 percent carried a gun or a knife; 27 percent had been violent towards a partner; and more than 58 percent had been violent towards peers.
Overall, teens who were heavy consumers of sugary fizz were between nine and 15 percentage points likelier to show aggressive behaviour compared with low consumers, even when ethnicity and other confounding factors were taken into account.
This is a magnitude similar to the link found, in previously researched, with alcohol or tobacco.
Hemenway said the study had included a couple of questions aimed at taking a children’s home background into account, including whether the teen had taken a meal with his family in the previous days.
As it was only intended as a preliminary investigation, the questionnaire did not ask what kind of sodas the teens drank, he said.
‘This is one of the very first studies to examine’ the question, said Hemenway.
‘We don’t know why (there is this strong association). There may be some causal effect but it’s also certainly plausible that this is just a marker for other problems — that kids who are violent for whatever reason, they tend to smoke more, they tend to drink more alcohol and they tend to maybe drink more soft drinks. We just don’t know.
‘We want to look at it more carefully in following studies.’
The study, published in a British journal, Injury Prevention, will revive memories of the ‘Twinkie Defence,’ a US legal landmark in which a killer successfully argued that his behaviour had been swayed by eating junk food.
The defendant in this case, Dan White, had been charged with homicide. His lawyer’s successful pleading led to conviction of a lesser charge, of voluntary manslaughter.
Several studies elsewhere have established a link between very high sugar consumption and lack of social bonding or irritable and anti-social behaviour.
Some diet research has also pointed the finger at the lack of micro-nutrients as a source of aggression, but this work is still in its early stages.