They Are The Youth Gone Wild
Ahmad once had this song and the line that I remember the most was the chorus “back in the day when I was young, I’m not a kid anymore” and I am really glad that I’m not a young person in these days.
One of the biggest reasons that I am glad I’m not young these days is because many young people not only lack respect for each other, many don’t have any respect for themselves. Try telling them that and one can expect an argument out of this world. I don’t blame the young people entirely; I place part of the blame the breakdown on the fact that as a society, we expect less from them than previous generations.
When I was growing up, young men opened the doors for women and the elderly out of common courtesy. I am not sure that many in this generation even know what common courtesy is, because I have watched many go through a door and let it close on the elderly person behind them. That pisses me off to no end; that was unheard of when I was younger, hell it’s still unheard of to me.
I remember when men didn’t curse in mixed company; they had enough respect for women that it just didn’t happen. Now, not only do young men curse in front of young women, the young women are cursing back, and loudly. I remember taking my mom and dad out for dinner a few years ago and sitting at the table behind us, there was a group of young men talking, if that’s what you want to call it. Every other word that came out of their mouth was “fuck”, “fuck that bitch”, “fuck you”, “fuck that”, you get my drift. If that wasn’t bad enough, their conversation was graphic; it was one of those conversations that could have been printed in some smut magazine about some tawdry one night stand. It got so bad that I finally just walked back to their table, told them that I was with my parents and asked if they could tone it down and show a little respect. They were not only embarrassed but they actually apologized to my parents, which I thought was very cool.
They guys are not the only one lacking in some kind of home training. Some of the young ladies are just off the chain. It seems that they have gotten the message that it’s what’s between their legs that matters more than what’s between their ears. A lot of young women are basing their self-esteem on what guy they can get into bed or if they can “steal” another woman’s guy, even if it’s only for a night.
I just love it when young people use the phrase “get out of my business”, many of these young people don’t even know that they have no business. They are so busy putting their entire life online, never stopping to think that once it’s on the net, they have invited the world into their business. A gentleman used to not kiss and tell, well many of these young people are not only kissing and telling but fuckin’ and telling all of it. What is that?
If all of that is not bad enough, many young people don’t even know how to apply for a job. When I was working in human resources, I recall young people coming in and asking “aye, is ya’ll hiring”? I was obligated to give them an application and when they came back for the interview, the young men would come in wearing a pair of slacks, sagging of course and the young ladies were coming in wearing skirts shorter than Amber Rose’s hair. Who taught them that? Rather, whoever was supposed to tell them NOT to do those things dropped the ball.
I think that this generation has a lot of entitlement issues. No one wants to actually work hard for anything anymore. Many young people have been given so much that they feel as if the rest of the world is supposed to provide for them instead of them breaking a sweat and working for what they want. Not comparing young people to dogs, but I don’t even give my dogs treats unless they work for it even if it’s simple command such as sit.
The sad thing is, this is the generation that will be raising their children with the same flawed thinking. I once saw a video on YouTube about a little boy (he must have been about 5) that was just cussing up a storm about his bike. The people were so busy taking phone recordings, laughing at him and encouraging him to keep it going, not once, did anyone tell that little dude to watch his mouth let alone correct his behavior.
It really pisses me off when I see videos of young girls dancing and executing moves that hookers could only hope to learn. I see nothing entertaining about children booty poppin and moving in ways that could almost be considered as pornographic while being cheered on by adults who should know better.
This generation is, without a doubt, the “me” generation and unless things impact their lives they don’t worry about it. There is often no consideration for the feelings of others and the value of human life is worth less than the value of a dollar.
I am not a goody-goody, but the difference between how many young people are today versus how my generation was raised to be, makes me wonder whether or not we all actually grew up on the same planet. I think that whenever possible, we need to reach out to some of these kids and show them how to be excited about who they are inside versus some of the negative things that manage to keep them captivated. Each one, teach one. End rant here …..
Lesson Learned: You Can’t Call Hos, Hos, Cause Hos Get Offended
I guess I should preface this journey into the land of total phuckery by saying, the terms “ho, slut, manwhore” and the like are all relative to the speaker. However, one’s perception of what a “ho, slut, manwhore” is, is based on the listener. So, a man who knows a woman who sleeps with men because they have a car could be considered “hoish” by some….and resourceful by others….follow me??
Today’s lesson in “Ho-ology” is courtesy of Twitter….lol. Last night, instead of doing my homework, like I should have been doing, I was goofing off on Twitter, one of the TTs (trending topics) was #GirlsShould. That sounded easy enough so I said ” #GirlsShould not act like a ho and expect to be treated like a lady.” I still stand by that statement, if a person (male or female) chooses to be a “random” or a “jumpoff” for someone or a few someones, don’t expect that someone to open your doors, pull out your chair and all the stuff they do for their significant other, you are the “random” or the “jumpoff” without significant other status……know your role.
Anyhew…..about an hour later, I get this tweet and this woman is hotter than fish grease (mind you, my tweet had been retweeted without comment quite a few times), and attempts to give me a letter in political correctness. She goes on some crazy ass rant about how I have my nerve to say that women who enjoy sex should be treated less than human……huh?? I had to look at my tweets again, this heffa is off her brick. It gets better though, apparently, according to her therapist….damn, I mean her…. I am an advocate for disrespecting people based on their sexual habits. Really? I had no idea I was all that. I thought what I said was pretty clear and not too open for misinterpretation or over analysis, I was apparently wrong as two left shoes.
She further goes on to say that it’s people “like me” that blame rape victims for their rape and find victims guilty of bringing sexual harassment on themselves, all because I used the word “ho”. Miss Thang was on a roll, she was going to read me like some “easy reader” book, I am not sure what page she was on when she assessed that I was sexist and advocated for the degradation of women who choose to explore their sexuality. REALLY??!!! I said all that??!!! I thought what I said was ” #GirlsShould not act like a ho and expect to be treated like a lady.” Issues much?
About this point, I had come to the reality that she must have been called a “ho” recently and taken personal offense to my tweet…..and? I attempted to explain that the word was relative to those who use it and people have the right to choose who they are with based on their own personal criteria. If a man does not want a woman, or a woman does not want a man that has been circulated like a newspaper, that’s their choice. I never advocated nor suggested that anyone should be treated like dirt.
This woman was in her feelings, deep……she was not in her head at all and she was going to make me pay for every man that hit and quit her and every woman that has ever called her a “ho” to her face and behind her back. I was apparently the source of every misjudgment that had been made where she was concerned and she was going to make sure I knew all about it, which she qualified by tweeting “yeah, i got my hackles up about the word “hoe” …so? Maybe I identify with “hoe-ness” more than I do ladyhood, after all i enjoy fucking”. I guess so….
Finally, I got tired of hearing all that and I said “As you please, you have your right to be offended and I have my right to not care……with all due respect”. She responds to me by saying “dont bother with the respect. I’m a hoe, I dont DESERVE to be treated with respect. ” Hell, all I had to say about that was …. “As you wish…”…. LOL
This all goes back to the adage “It’s not what they call you, it’s what you answer to”, I never called HER anything, actually had very little idea who she was until she wanted to defend her “ho-ness”. My thing is this, women and men are free to express themselves sexually in any manner that one sees fit. How others perceive that man or woman is not my call…..it’s theirs. If someone perceives one as a “ho” and chooses to sleep with that “ho”, no more, no less, that is up to the people involved. However, if one chooses to be so blatant and open about their encounters (who, what, where, when, why, how, methods, frequency, position…) that they appear to be a person that one does not want to take home to meet their parents, move on….don’t get mad, open your own door and leave.
I still say ” #GirlsShould not act like a ho and expect to be treated like a lady”. Does that make me right?? To some, yes and to others, no…it’s their choice, one does not have to agree with me, it’s their life.
On an end note, this person’s bio says: ”PottyMouthDirtBag,HawaiianWhtBlk, Altruistic,HappyFatty, Slam poet, Blogger, Raging Womanist/Feminist, Potential Soc.Worker, Offending Yu For 22yrs”
It looks like to ME that offender has become the offended…..C’est La Vie. Thank you for joining me on this journey into total phuckery, I hope you have enjoyed your visit, thank you, please come again and watch your step.
Face It – Roland Martin’s CNN Suspension Is NOT A “Black Thing” – It’s A “Green Thing”
So, I’ve been reading the rants and raves about CNN’s Roland Martin’s suspension for tweets he made on Superbowl Sunday. If you missed it, here is what he tweeted:
“If a dude at your Super Bowl party is hyped about David Beckham’s H&M underwear ad, smack the ish out of him! #superbowl
Ladies, if your man don’t like sports, send his azz back to the factory. He came to you defective! #rolandsrules
I’m sorry. I’m not down with seeing dudes walking around with bags on their shoulders that resemble women’s handbags. #helltothenaw
Who the hell was that New England Patriot they just showed in a head to toe pink suit? Oh, he needs a visit from #teamwhipdatass
(Source)”
Many gay-rights groups took offense to what they refer to as “anti-gay” remarks and in response, CNN has suspended Martin.
I am not nearly as sick to death about hearing this story as I am people who are on the bandwagon touting that CNN is only reprimanding Martin because he’s black. *SMH*
CNN’s decision to suspend Martin is based on color, but that color is green, it’s not black. The bottom line is, when Martin or any other media correspondent speaks in a public forum such as Twitter or Facebook, they represent their organization. If one makes statements that are contradictory to the “view” of the station, they take action. CNN is a lot more worried about their advertisers than they are standing behind Martin or anyone else on their staff that steps off into stupid.
The next half-baked argument I’ve heard is regarding the 1st amendment (freedom of speech) and how CNN is infringing on Martin’s 1st amendment right. Nooo stupids, they’re not. The 1st amendment states:
“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”
Get that?? CONGRESS shall make no law…..in this case, it hasn’t. Many people want to cling to not having their rights violated, but they do not want to cling to accepting the responsibility that goes along with them. Martin exercised his right to “free speech” without taking into consideration that his high profile position could reflect negatively on CNN. Granted, that is a large responsibility to have but it’s not a responsibility that is only afforded to Martin. Paying attention to his public relations is a responsibility that he accepted when he took the job at CNN. Face it, Martin put his foot in his mouth, actually, he put his fingers in his mouth and the consequence is his to deal with.
I am over the thinking that people of color should get away with things because “other people have…” I did not hear such public outcry when MSNBC released Chris Hansen (the journalist that did the ‘To Catch A Predator” series), nor did I hear the same public outcry when Don Imus was fired for referring to the Rutger’s Women’s Basketball team as “nappy headed hoes”. As a matter of fact, the outcry over Imus was to the contrary, groups pushed for his release. Why is it okay to push for the release of someone who makes negative public comments about people of color, but when a person of color makes an anti-gay comment, there should be no accountability? The only reason I can think of is hypocrisy.
People from all walks of life make poor judgments. I think that one can support a person but not support one of their actions, it’s not all or nothing. I think that before people jump up on that bandwagon and say “it’s only because he/she is black”, that one looks at the situation and just says “it’s because he/she was stupid…..” Why is that so hard?
I’m Psycho Because HE Can’t Get Any Conversation…..Seriously?

I think we all have those people in our lives that we wish we had never given our phone numbers to. For a while, I had so many that I just finally set up a Google voice account to manage that phuckery.
Anyhew, this guy that I talked to years ago just popped up like toast in my text messages the other day and asked me for a “sexy pic” , the exchange went a little something like this:
Him: I want a sexy pic of you!
Me: How does it feel to want?
Him: Lol nice
(Pause when I didn’t reply)
Him: Come on
Me: Why do you keep bothering me?
Him: Cause I like to lol
Me: Like I’ve asked to you before, just lose my number
Him: Oh stop u big baby
Me: Look, you’re a nuisance. If I wanted to stay in touch with you, I would have.
Him: Well I know you want to deep down inside
Me: Nothing runs that deep
Him: Lol awe
Him: You know I intrigue u lol
Me: No, actually, you annoy the piss outta me
Him: Whatever ur psyco
Psycho? Seriously? I am not going to blame all men of behaving this way but this is not the first time that I am aware of a man calling a woman psycho because HE can’t get any conversation.
In my opinion, guys who go there for that reason have some really distorted view of themselves. I believe that there are men out there who think that a woman who denies him attention must be crazy because “any woman would feel honored” that he gave her some attention. FAIL!! That is not the case, the case is, she just wasn’t interested for whatever reason and on the real, she doesn’t have to give one. Not being interested is her choice, just like it’s a guy’s choice to not be interested in a particular woman for whatever reason.
Look, there is a huge difference between someone being a challenge and a person being a total pain in the ass. If someone lets you know that they are not interested in you, just be like Lupe Fiasco, just “Kick, push, and coast…..”


















