I guess I should preface this journey into the land of total phuckery by saying, the terms “ho, slut, manwhore” and the like are all relative to the speaker. However, one’s perception of what a “ho, slut, manwhore” is, is based on the listener. So, a man who knows a woman who sleeps with men because they have a car could be considered “hoish” by some….and resourceful by others….follow me??
Today’s lesson in “Ho-ology” is courtesy of Twitter….lol. Last night, instead of doing my homework, like I should have been doing, I was goofing off on Twitter, one of the TTs (trending topics) was #GirlsShould. That sounded easy enough so I said ” #GirlsShould not act like a ho and expect to be treated like a lady.” I still stand by that statement, if a person (male or female) chooses to be a “random” or a “jumpoff” for someone or a few someones, don’t expect that someone to open your doors, pull out your chair and all the stuff they do for their significant other, you are the “random” or the “jumpoff” without significant other status……know your role.
Anyhew…..about an hour later, I get this tweet and this woman is hotter than fish grease (mind you, my tweet had been retweeted without comment quite a few times), and attempts to give me a letter in political correctness. She goes on some crazy ass rant about how I have my nerve to say that women who enjoy sex should be treated less than human……huh?? I had to look at my tweets again, this heffa is off her brick. It gets better though, apparently, according to her therapist….damn, I mean her…. I am an advocate for disrespecting people based on their sexual habits. Really? I had no idea I was all that. I thought what I said was pretty clear and not too open for misinterpretation or over analysis, I was apparently wrong as two left shoes.
She further goes on to say that it’s people “like me” that blame rape victims for their rape and find victims guilty of bringing sexual harassment on themselves, all because I used the word “ho”. Miss Thang was on a roll, she was going to read me like some “easy reader” book, I am not sure what page she was on when she assessed that I was sexist and advocated for the degradation of women who choose to explore their sexuality. REALLY??!!! I said all that??!!! I thought what I said was ” #GirlsShould not act like a ho and expect to be treated like a lady.” Issues much?
About this point, I had come to the reality that she must have been called a “ho” recently and taken personal offense to my tweet…..and? I attempted to explain that the word was relative to those who use it and people have the right to choose who they are with based on their own personal criteria. If a man does not want a woman, or a woman does not want a man that has been circulated like a newspaper, that’s their choice. I never advocated nor suggested that anyone should be treated like dirt.
This woman was in her feelings, deep……she was not in her head at all and she was going to make me pay for every man that hit and quit her and every woman that has ever called her a “ho” to her face and behind her back. I was apparently the source of every misjudgment that had been made where she was concerned and she was going to make sure I knew all about it, which she qualified by tweeting “yeah, i got my hackles up about the word “hoe” …so? Maybe I identify with “hoe-ness” more than I do ladyhood, after all i enjoy fucking”. I guess so….
Finally, I got tired of hearing all that and I said “As you please, you have your right to be offended and I have my right to not care……with all due respect”. She responds to me by saying “dont bother with the respect. I’m a hoe, I dont DESERVE to be treated with respect. ” Hell, all I had to say about that was …. “As you wish…”…. LOL
This all goes back to the adage “It’s not what they call you, it’s what you answer to”, I never called HER anything, actually had very little idea who she was until she wanted to defend her “ho-ness”. My thing is this, women and men are free to express themselves sexually in any manner that one sees fit. How others perceive that man or woman is not my call…..it’s theirs. If someone perceives one as a “ho” and chooses to sleep with that “ho”, no more, no less, that is up to the people involved. However, if one chooses to be so blatant and open about their encounters (who, what, where, when, why, how, methods, frequency, position…) that they appear to be a person that one does not want to take home to meet their parents, move on….don’t get mad, open your own door and leave.
I still say ” #GirlsShould not act like a ho and expect to be treated like a lady”. Does that make me right?? To some, yes and to others, no…it’s their choice, one does not have to agree with me, it’s their life.
On an end note, this person’s bio says: ”PottyMouthDirtBag,HawaiianWhtBlk, Altruistic,HappyFatty, Slam poet, Blogger, Raging Womanist/Feminist, Potential Soc.Worker, Offending Yu For 22yrs”
It looks like to ME that offender has become the offended…..C’est La Vie. Thank you for joining me on this journey into total phuckery, I hope you have enjoyed your visit, thank you, please come again and watch your step.